How to raise body confident kids

We are living in a time where a diet and image-driven culture is at an all-time high. We are inundated with misleading images of the ‘perfect body’ on tv, social media, the internet and so are our kids. As parents, we play a big role in how our kids view their bodies, and it’s important now more than ever to do what we can to raise kids that are comfortable in their own skin.  

Raising body positive kids means raising kids to accept and appreciate their body (as well as all bodies) regardless of shape or size. Confident kids are more likely to grow into resilient adults. Body positivity can not only improve self-esteem and self-acceptance, but it can also make it easier to develop healthy lifestyle behaviours. This includes a healthy, balanced approach to food, activity and can help prevent lifelong yo-yo dieting.  

Remember, monkey see, monkey do? Kids absorb the behaviours of the people around them. So, when it comes to promoting positive body image you can show them how it’s done and lead by example. Here are some ways to model body positivity:  

• Talk about your own body in a positive way. Focus on the amazing things your body can do, rather than physical appearance.  It is okay to acknowledge your own imperfections but try to avoid making negative comments about your own physical appearance or body parts. 
• Talk about other bodies in a positive way. Avoid making negative comments about physical appearance of others (for example, they would look better if they lost weight), including family, friends, and even celebrities or people on TV.  
• Have open communications with your kids about their body or bodies in general. Acknowledge that healthy bodies and come in different shapes and sizes. Explain that being healthy is not only linked to looks or appearance. 
• Make healthy eating and activity part of your daily routine and talk about how good this makes you feel.  
• Avoid the blame game. Try not to punish, shame, or pressure your kids for their food, activity, or other health behaviours. Avoid using phrases like “should you really be eating that”. 

• Be mindful of the messages you see in the media, TV and on the socials, especially those that promote appearance ideals. Encourage your kids to be media savy. 
• Encourage your kids to feel good about themselves. Discuss some things that they like about their body maybe their smile or how high they can jump. But also, don’t forget other person qualities like how funny, kind or smart they are.